To Russia (And Back) With Love
Thursday, March 23, 2006
  Welcoming Zoe To The Tribe
Our princess awoke this morning Orthodox (Russian). Tonight, she goes to sleep Conservative (Jewish).


This afternoon marked her religious conversion to Judaism through the process known as "tevillah," performed by Sari immersing her three times in the mikvah with accompanying prayers. Depending on your frame of reference, the mikvah is either a very small swimming pool or a very large bathtub--a "Jewcuzzi," if you will.* The ceremony was supervised by the bet din (a triumverate of clergy).

We had various discussions with our synagogue's rabbis about the process. The first question posed to us was which of us would do the dunking? We decided that it would probably be best if Sari did the honors. We based that decision largely because at the time (long before this week's PLG Day), we didn't think the plausible perception of attempting to drown Zoe would have particularly helped endear her to me.

The rabbi was, of course, delighted to perform the ceremony, but I think he wanted to save us all the trouble and asked if we were certain Zoe wasn't already Jewish (i.e. had a Jewish birthmother). We frankly don't know, but with the overall Jewish population of Russia at perhaps 1/10th of one percent, we felt this probably didn't warrant additional investigation.

Then there's the issue of nudity. Zoe would have to be au naturel, while Sari had the option of a bathing suit. Would Zoe be comfortable with everyone (clergy, brother, parents, grandparents, an aunt and uncle) watching? When you consider that running around the house naked fresh out of the tub seems to be one of her favorite pastimes, we weren't overly concerned. Sari, on the other hand, is a little more modest and opted for a one-piece.

Zoe had no clue as to what was about to happen and became visibly more upset with each dunk. There are very specific rules--she couldn't be held against Sari while dipped and we couldn't cover up her mouth and nose. And, as great as our communication is with each other, we couldn't convey to her that holding her breath wouldn't be a bad idea. So Sari's only strategy was to dip as quickly as possible. Zoe cried for about a minute when all was said and done, concluding "I don't like that bathtub."

The celebration moved from the mikvah to another institution for the area's Jewish community, with a family luncheon at the Parkway Deli. Faced with traditional choices such as matzo ball soup, corned beef and knishes, Zoe of course opted for her own traditional fare of applesauce, mac & cheese and chocolate milk.

Zoe's Russian Orthodox past is now forever part of our family's history; the inexpensive crucifix she received upon leaving the orphanage one of our most treasured pieces of jewelry. The blessings she received from a priest in Yekaterinburg have served us all well over the last five months.

Dos vidanya. And shalom.

*For my friend Michael Levy, an occasional contributor to neologism competitions worldwide: take that!

 
Comments:
jewcuzzi... love it. i don't know much about judaism, but my husband and i frequented a jewish deli every other weekend when we lived in chicago... all i can say is yum to their chicken soup and bialis!!!

my grandmother is russian orthodox. now those folks know how to pray. i just went to her church and the service was a good 1.5 hours!
 
hi sari,
thanks for your comment on my blog. i've been fortunate enough to find a whole bunch of friends in blogworld who are at all stages of the adoption process. some are even in russia, ukraine and kaz now. others are waiting, and i'm the slow poke of the group. i've loved reading your story of zoe elena. she's a doll. i got here via eric's posts on the yahoo russian_adoption message boards. funny, his comments there are always "common sense" or researched (eg. thoughtful answers) rather than some of the misinformation or uneducated communication that is posted. i hope you both continue to post, since your family is so fun to read about. feel free to stop by my blog, or others i have blogroll'd if you want or need some support or just want to read mindless posts of us PAPs in the waiting stage! :)
 
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